Loving Me.

I was talking to a friend the other day and we were talking about relationships. He was talking about how much he needed a relationship and how he was tired of being lonely. Yet, he couldn't give me a logical reason of why he needed to be in a relationship. FIRST, If you're not happy by yourself there is NO WAY that you'll be happy with someone else. That's the thing people don't understand and then they get angry when the relationship doesn't work out. Take the time to love, embrace and enjoy YOU. This goes beyond relationships... It also applies to just being generally happy with life (which is the direction I am taking this post).


I love this quote from Clark Moustakas, "Accept everything about yourself. I mean everything. You are you and that is the beginning and the end- no apologies, no regrets." 


And I love this verse even more, "You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother's womb." (Psalm 139:13) If God knew every single, teeny, tiny detail, of your existence, your failures and successes, and loves you the same, what more could you ask for? If you're not happy, ask Him for his joy, ask Him to show you how much He loves you, and He will. He is the friend that sticks closer than a brother or a lover. A person, place or thing won't make you happy, they can only add to it.


Selah [pause and think]

Status Change.

"My status is changing, decline has declined, I'm on my way to better days...." Heard this song yesterday at a concert and I fell in love. Sometimes, it's easy to look at the present and make conclusions and predictions, but our God, truly, has the final say... Every trial is a lesson and from each, you are being shaped into the person God wants you to be. So, whatever you're going through, don't be discouraged, don't be dismayed. You're on your way to better days... :)

Psalm 30:5b AMP: Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.

Selah [pause and think]

It ain't easy, but it's worth it.

Since being in a long term relationship, I told myself that I wasn't going to date for a year... Then after growing in the Lord and realizing things about myself, I realized that the next time I dated it would be for real and that next guy would potentially become my husband. No more games. No more emotional roller coasters. Ummm yeahhhhhh, easier said than done.

Though I have yet to be in another "declared" relationship, I have emotionally invested myself in certain friendships, with daydreams, thoughts and what not. It even got to the point where I considered laying down my standard to date someone who I knewwwww with my heart of hearts would not and could not be my husband.

It wasn't until today, while have a discussion on relationships with some younger teenagers, that I realized I was actually preaching to myself. I am worth so much more that petty relationships that are bound to end. I am worth more than a summer fling. I am the daughter of a King and as such, I cannot and will not allow a pauper or a slave claim me.

So, what's the lesson here? Wait, until you are sure beyond any reasonable doubt that this guy/girl is your potential spouse. But, Steph, it's hard. Wait. Steph, all my friends are in relationships. Wait. But, this is how the world shows me to find love. Wait! It's not going to be easy, but it'll be so worth it. Just think about all the heartbreak and the tears you are saving yourself from. One of my favorite songs, "Letting Go," by Reliant K, says, "The end will justify the pain it took to get us there." There is some amazing person that God has designed all for you and being with that person will justify the wait and the pain of waiting. As I type this out, I'm totally preaching to myself.

Selah [pause and think]